Baby Boy or Girl? The envelope please…

First, thank you for all of your very kind messages and comments. We are so touched by all of the beautiful notes and well wishes, and grateful for all of the love.

Elisa_DiStefano_pregnantMy bump is growing and the big question has been, do we know if we are having a boy or girl…

well, we could know, but we don’t yet!

Our doctor gave us a sealed envelope with the answer inside and we’ve had it for about a month. Each time we think about opening it, the timing doesn’t seem right.

Mostly everyone in my family waited for the big delivery room reveal with the belief that there are so few surprises in life…. but, almost all of my friends found out right away! I guess that leaves us somewhere in the middle!

In our waiting defense, we’ve had a lot going on in the last month, with Mo’s crazy travel schedule, buying a house and another business (that’s a whole other blog or 10), publishing The Bridal Body book (and all of the events that have gone along with it) and sadly the devastating loss of a family member, Mo & I have had very little time together.

Part of me wants to know simply so that the “your face changed- you are having a girl”, “you’re widening so it’s definitely a girl”, “you are carrying in front so it’s a boy for sure” comments come to an abrupt end!

The honest truth is, it truly doesn’t matter to me if it’s a boy or a girl (I’d love to have both) – as I now truly understand the concern of just wanting a healthy baby.

A lot of friends are asking if we’ll do a reveal party (I was even given balloons!) … I’ve seen some very cute, fun ones but I’m not sure that’s for us… maybe we’ll just open it on rare quiet day at home… or with immediate family…. I guess both the when and how are still big question marks! Or perhaps I am over thinking this way too much!


So parents, just wondering, did you find out the sex of your baby? Are you happy that you did or didn’t?

32 Comments on Baby Boy or Girl? The envelope please…

  1. Kristne
    March 25, 2016 at 10:56 pm (6 years ago)

    We didn’t find out and it was the best! The comments will still come about your face changing or how you are carrying either way. My husband videotaped the reveal when he went out to the waiting room and it is priceless-even though I wasn’t even there!!! I watch it at least once a week, and my daughter was born 14 weeks ago! My vote is to have it be a surprise!

  2. Debbie
    March 25, 2016 at 11:13 pm (6 years ago)

    I have 5 and didn’t find out any. It is really the only true surprise you get, at least I we were blessed with 2 girls 3 boys. They are now 21 19 17 15 12. Congratulations to you and MO in whatever you decide!!

  3. Chrissy
    March 25, 2016 at 11:18 pm (6 years ago)

    I did find out with both of my girls. It just made things easier with planning he nursery and I didn’t want all neutral color clothes. Plus I HATE surprises. Good luck to you for a healthy pregnancy and baby.
    Either boy or girl you will be blessed.

  4. Pat
    March 25, 2016 at 11:24 pm (6 years ago)

    Like others have said, life needs more surprises (esp the happy ones). I had my daughter 32 yrs ago and son 30 years ago.It was much more fun talking to my stomach and guessing and giving them names. After going through labor, it was a joyous thing to hear..”it’s a…..

  5. JoAnn
    March 25, 2016 at 11:24 pm (6 years ago)

    We found out, and I never regretted it. That was 23 years ago. Truth is whether you wait, or decide to find out now…..that moment will be a surprise! Whatever you decide…I wish you the best!

  6. Michelle
    March 25, 2016 at 11:32 pm (6 years ago)

    Hi Elisa,

    I actually saw you at the Watermill bridal show (I was there with my friend) and I was wondering if you were expecting. You looked amazing! My husband and I were just married last April and we are expecting our first baby this August. We find out the gender Tuesday so we are having our Dr put the gender in an envelope and we made reservations at Insignia. We are going to ask them to surprise us at dessert. Then we will do a small gender with our parents and my brother next weekend. It’s such an exciting time and scary at the same time. You and Mo will figure it out a lot of our friends begged us to do a gender reveal. We decided we will never get this first time back so we wanted to share it with just each other (I’m sure it will be emotional.) Wishing for us both to have happy healthy babies this summer. Xoxo Michelle

  7. Amy
    March 25, 2016 at 11:54 pm (6 years ago)

    I found out what I was having because I’m too much of planner to not know… I wanted to be prepared for what I was having & have the nursery all done before she came! :) I know that not finding out is one of the few surprises in life but I don’t really like being surprised lol!! But ultimately it’s up to you guys… Whatever you guys decide will be the right decision! <3

  8. Kristen
    March 26, 2016 at 12:24 am (6 years ago)

    We are expecting our first in September and my husband and I agreed we would wait to find out the gender. It’s a tough decision to make, but we would be pleased with either a boy or a girl. We are just hoping for a healthy baby. Good luck to you!

  9. Dana
    March 26, 2016 at 12:57 am (6 years ago)

    We found out and it was the best decision we made! we didn’t have a big gender revel we just found out on our own. But I loved the feeling of being prepared. After the baby is born you will have enough to be busy with that you won’t have time to do anything else. I liked having our clothes and nursery all ready so that way when the baby came we were just able to enjoy time with him. I felt the same way about just wanting a healthy baby and it was still so exciting finding out what we were having! I will definitely be doing the same for our second;) Good luck and you look beautiful!

  10. Nicole
    March 26, 2016 at 2:22 am (6 years ago)

    I think either way you’re surprised. Either before the baby is born or when the baby is born, it’s still a special moment. I did a gender reveal with my second. I had my friend call the doctor once the results came in to find out what the gender was. I asked her to get a black balloon with white polka dots and put either pink or blue confetti in it. I had all my friends and family over and we popped the ballon together. It was such an awesome surprise because I already had a girl and we found out we were now having a boy!! We were so excited and so happy that all our friends and family could be there to share the excitement in finding out the gender. It’s also a plus finding out before the baby is born because now you can decorate accordingly and not have to be forced by using gender neutral tones like yellow or green. You can also pick out the baby’s going home outfit! Either way having a baby is so amazing! Congratulations to you and your family!

  11. luann diaz
    March 26, 2016 at 2:52 am (6 years ago)

    I found out when I was pregnant with both my kids. I hope u let us know what ur having.

    • ;uann Diaz
      March 26, 2016 at 3:08 am (6 years ago)

      Flip, how dare you say such horrible things!

  12. Jean
    March 26, 2016 at 3:05 am (6 years ago)

    My husband and i had 5 sons and we waited until they were born to find out. We wanted to be surprise who cares if the baby is a girl or boy as long as the baby is healthy and happy. My children were told the sex of their children and in turn told us. I was so disappointed i didnt want to know until the baby came. I love all my grandchildren but i wish that i wasnt told till after delivery. I wish you and your husband the very best with your new little one.. at the end its all up to you. Wishing you the very best.

  13. Luann Diaz
    March 26, 2016 at 3:07 am (6 years ago)

    OMG, who are you? How dare you say such hateful things!

  14. Ricky Bobby
    March 26, 2016 at 3:11 am (6 years ago)

    Name him Walker Texas Ranger…great rack by the way, the 2 best reasons to watch news 12 every morning. Of course your photo above shows them off.

  15. MM
    March 26, 2016 at 6:13 am (6 years ago)

    Since your comments are so pointed, one must assume that you have a personal relationship to Elisa DeStefano and that she has done something terrible to you. If not, you are way out of line!!!

    • Francine
      March 28, 2016 at 1:05 pm (6 years ago)

      Agree!! No need for that nonsense here! Ignore them!

  16. Christina
    March 26, 2016 at 10:34 am (6 years ago)

    My husband and I are expecting our first baby in October and we are not going to find out. We are definitely in the minority among our friends, but we want the delivery day surprise. Plus, it will give me even more motivation to push! To anyone that is disappointed that we aren’t finding out, I just say Christmas is a few months after. If you had your heart set on something gender specific, buy it then. God bless on whichever you decide.

  17. rachelle
    March 31, 2016 at 6:19 pm (6 years ago)

    I did not find out with my 3 kids. So much fun finding out as they hand him/her to you for the first time. Either way enjoy your pregnancy. You look beautiful!

  18. Abigail Brown
    April 1, 2016 at 5:54 pm (6 years ago)

    My husband and I found out early with both our boys. Made planning and shopping easier!

    • Elisa DiStefano
      May 31, 2016 at 8:03 pm (6 years ago)

      Hi Abbe, Thank you for reading and commenting and for always being so loving & supportive. I am sorry if you received an inappropriate response- someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. My sincere apologies.

  19. Beth
    April 11, 2016 at 11:14 pm (6 years ago)

    Congratulations Elisa. I knew you a long long time ago. I watch you on the news and you are the same kind and sweet person you were back then. I am sorry that people feel the need to leave you nasty hurtful comments. You deserve much better than that.

    • Elisa DiStefano
      May 31, 2016 at 8:03 pm (6 years ago)

      Hi Beth, Thank you for reading and commenting. I am sorry if you received an inappropriate response- someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. My sincere apologies.

  20. Donna
    April 26, 2016 at 11:46 am (6 years ago)

    So happy for you both! Our first two we didn’t know. Our third child we went into the sonogram and decided before hand we wouldn’t find out. … But when the tech asked us curiosity got the best of us. We were excited although it didn’t matter to us if we had a boy

  21. Donna
    April 26, 2016 at 11:51 am (6 years ago)

    Ha it didn’t post the rest of my message. But just know for me most exhilarating feeling after childbirth was to hear it’s a (boy)(girl). What ever people decide God bless them to live in the moment and savor it

  22. Mary
    May 1, 2016 at 4:33 pm (6 years ago)

    2 out of 3 of my births were known…the last child was left to be a surprise and what a great feeling that was!! I am an OB nurse, privileged to see new life everyday and when the parents do not know the gender of their baby even the staff cries tears of joy!! We live in a world of instant gratification but some things are meant to wait for! Happy and healthy labor to you!!

  23. Susan
    May 5, 2016 at 11:54 am (6 years ago)

    I did not find out and it made the experience that much better! If you can wait, the delivery day will be that much better.

    Best wishes!!

  24. Carolyn Gunther
    May 23, 2016 at 12:27 pm (6 years ago)

    I have two daughters and with each pregnancy, I tried to wait to find out. With my first, I held out for six months but then I couldn’t wait anymore. I was so excited. I ran to the store and bought so many beautiful dresses and hair bands. I still had a lot of energy and it was great to be able to pick out my baby girl’s first clothes! (think about that…) So then everyone said…ooohhh, you should have waited to find out. It’s so exciting. So this time I held out for 8 months. A little health scare caused me to have a sonogram and I couldn’t wait anymore. Baby Girl again!! Time to shop and get matching sister outfits. It was harder now because I was larger and with a 15 month old in tow. ELISA…You love fashion. Find out what you are having and Go Shop!!

  25. Danielle
    May 26, 2016 at 1:13 pm (6 years ago)

    Elisa.. We love you on News 12! I say to my husband, “she has the best hair and smile” You always look beautiful.
    In any case, I just had a baby in April. She is the best! Its the most amazing feeling. no one can truly describe. Hmm. Far as birth, I was scared to death but you will get thru it…like all those women before you. Everyone’s is different so try not to pay attention to any of those horror stories. My only advice… see if they can give you a good idea about how large the baby is before you give birth. My last sono where they measured the baby was at 35 weeks and she was only 5-14 at that time. But by the time I gave birth to her at one day over 40 weeks she was already 8 7 and very difficult to get out… to put it mildly. Because they didn’t measure again, we all had no idea how big she was. If you do go natural, I ll have more advice for u! By natural, I mean not a section. I got an epidural but I really didn’t need it until I was about eight centimetres…the labor was actually fairly bearable for me.
    As far as must-haves I definitely would get a mommy hook to put on your stroller. That thing is great it holds all of your other packages or your purse.
    We got a bassinet but she really doesn’t even sleep in it. She sleeps in the Rock and play. I heard they actually have a rock and play now that you can control with your phone which is awesome. I may upgrade to that one. I have to run for now but my only other piece of advice that I could think of at this moment is to feed her when she’s hungry. The doctors may tell you to only feed her a certain amount like 2 to 4 ounces when she’s little but if she screaming she may still be hungry. I did try breastfeeding but it was difficult for a lot of reasons especially because I hardly got any milk… it’s a huge commitment but I really wanted to try it. However for my own sanity and the babies I had to give it up so now we use Enfamil Gentlease and it’s easier on her belly then some of the other formulas. Gripe Water also helps to to give to them after they finish eating and for hiccups. That’s it for now …best of luck to you.

    ♡ Danielle Hammer

    • Danielle
      May 26, 2016 at 1:17 pm (6 years ago)

      Oh and I forgot that this blog was only really about you finding out the sex. We did the Panorama panel and we got the paper in the envelope too. I actually held out for a couple of weeks and then one night I was sad so to make me feel happier I opened it. I didn’t really care that much what I had knowing that the baby was healthy but when I found out it was a girl I did cry. I think it’s awesome when people wait to find out but I couldn’t hold out and it was nice to be able to set up the baby’s room and to have the shower have all the gender specific clothes that the baby would need also

      • Elisa DiStefano
        May 31, 2016 at 7:55 pm (6 years ago)

        Hi Danielle, Thank you for reading and commenting. I am sorry if you received an inappropriate response- someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. My apologies.

  26. Denise
    July 28, 2016 at 2:53 am (6 years ago)

    You will be surprised either way when you open the envelope you will scream witj Joy or cry just as finding out in the delivery room.
    It’s all a surprise.. just a matter of when you will be. I was 9 months pregnant had already had my baby shower and then decided to open the envelope and I was so suprised I was having a girl because everyone from the dr to the nurses and family and friends bet on a boy.. Enjoy this time


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