Mom-ual wanted!

mom-ual?I’m more than half-way there… and I am so excited but so nervous too.


I sometimes catch a glimpse of myself in my work bathroom mirror and can’t believe it so I have to snap & send to Mo!

The bump is getting bigger and bigger (and everything else is too!) and I think the days of squeezing into my regular clothes are quickly coming to an end. I’ve been following my nutritionist, friend and co-author Stacy Moutafis’ Baby Body diet as best I can and sticking to my workouts with Geri twice a week (and trying to get in that cardio & Stacy’s extra exercises but gosh it’s getting tougher!).

I feel very blessed and grateful to be having a healthy pregnancy, so I hate to complain about anything (although these compression tights my doctor has me wearing for my leg swelling are very unattractive and quite uncomfortable and difficult to get on! Feet up as much as possible is also tough for someone that is always on the go- but I am trying my best and Saint is loving it).


The baby’s kicks are getting stronger (I love feeling it!) and I feel like my list of to-dos is getting longer. My whole life I’ve over prepared and over studied for everything- and so I am starting to stress that I am behind in baby preparedness!

My sister and friends have been kind enough to compile my long list of must-haves (I can’t believe there are so many things to get) and Mo and I spent today looking at baby stuff trying to educate ourselves (whoah is everything expensive). I received some books as gifts that I started to skim- but I wish that there was one mom-ual that had a list of everything I need and need to do… and the timetable I need to do it in!


My doctor gave me a stack of paper work… hospital registration, cord blood….  and said I have to start looking into birthing classes… I had no idea there was such a thing!

A girlfriend suggested I book a maternity shoot (what to wear alone stresses me out)… another asked if I thought about getting a hospital gown to wear (does everyone do that?)… and another asked if I started making a push play list (music to play during labor? I never heard of that but now every song on the radio has me thinking…. ) . Moms out there, did you do any of this?

I know none of it really matters, and having a healthy baby is the only thing that matters, but I want to be the best mom possible and have this be the best experience possible. So suggestions are appreciated – and if anyone has that mom-ual… I’ll take it!

22 Comments on Mom-ual wanted!

  1. Tara
    May 2, 2016 at 12:40 am (6 years ago)

    I am a mom who has struggled with infertility ans had multiply miscarriages. My advice is this, let it go. This baby only needs love from his/her parents. Everything else will fall in to place. Enjoy the moments and don’t worry. You will have enough worry when this baby comes.
    Babies are God’s miracles! Enjoy the miracle God is giving you.

    • Karen
      May 31, 2016 at 9:46 am (6 years ago)

      You are very rude. You asked for people’s comments, so take it all in. Maybe you should figure out how to take care of a baby on your own before you ask people what they think

      • Elisa DiStefano
        May 31, 2016 at 7:54 pm (6 years ago)

        Hi Karen, someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.

    • Elisa DiStefano
      May 31, 2016 at 7:59 pm (6 years ago)

      Hi Tara, Thank you for reading and commenting. I am sorry if you received an inappropriate response- someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. My sincere apologies.

  2. Tracy
    May 2, 2016 at 12:44 am (6 years ago)

    Hi!!! I didnt have music to listen too but my nurse and dr were keeping me totally engaged in convo. Books I read or tv shows We watch. Its def more relaxing. After the epidural I just watched tv until it was time. Youre going to hear a fon of stories (good and bad) but heres mine. Simple and easy. Had cconteaction. Went to hospital. Got epidural. Pushed for a hr and thats its. All took about 5 hrs. If you just relax and listen to your dr and nurse all will be well. Good luck!!!

    • Elisa DiStefano
      May 31, 2016 at 7:59 pm (6 years ago)

      Hi Tracy, Thank you for reading and commenting. I am sorry if you received an inappropriate response- someone created an account with my name and is responding to people on my blog. It was not me. My sincere apologies.

  3. Annette
    May 2, 2016 at 12:52 am (6 years ago)

    Believe it or not, you will figure it out. First and foremost you lead with love. People are going to give you advice whether you want it or not. The bottom line is every baby is different and unique that is why they are so very special. Don’t stress, take your doctors advice and keep your feet up because when the baby arrives you have to hit the ground running. Both of you enjoy every minute because there is nothing like having children.

  4. Brandy Lanci
    May 2, 2016 at 12:57 am (6 years ago)

    Elisa…….BREATH! You will be just fine. There are only 3 things to do……Follow your doctors instructions, listen to your body….(if tired or stressed lay down for a bit) and hold on to that husband and share the experience of life together. Maybe some yoga for stress relief and breathing might help but I hope you enjoy the pregnancy and all the love and support that comes with it. <3

  5. Diane
    May 2, 2016 at 1:12 am (6 years ago)

    Elisa my only advice to give you is to make sure you rest as much as you can. Don’t plan too much as everything will change . You will be a great mom for that little baby that’s why God picked you to be it’s mom. So enjoy the kicks enjoy the rest and keep it simple for yourself only you know what will work for you and your baby when he or she arrives. Congratulations to you and Mo

  6. Name*
    May 2, 2016 at 1:14 am (6 years ago)

    My only advice is don’t take anyone’s advice. It all falls into place. All the things they said I would need. I returned a quarter of what I got, exchanged another quarter and gave away a quarter. Breath take it easy. You’re going to do great.

  7. Vanessa
    May 2, 2016 at 1:31 am (6 years ago)

    I’m with everyone else. All you need to do is take care of you and that little baby. None of the other stuff matters, and half the stuff people say you need to do or get, you don’t! Just take it easy, enjoy time w Mo, and try and relax. This time ia precious and should be appreciated and enjoyed! Once that baby comes, everything changes! Xxoo

  8. Patty
    May 2, 2016 at 2:22 am (6 years ago)

    I’m a mom of 3 boys. Everyone will have advice. The only one you should
    Listen to is yourself. I was young and not married with my first (we got married when he turned 8 months old)and I figured it all out. I trusted my gut and 3 boys later I know I’ve done the best I can. The boys and their dad are all very happy…..

  9. Jessica
    May 2, 2016 at 2:33 am (6 years ago)

    I am a new mom to an almost 8 month old boy! My advice is simple…enjoy this time being pregnant! It is a great experience so try not to stress and just embrace it. Secondly, the love you will feel for your little one once he/she arrives is nothing anyone can prepare you for, but I will tell you it is the best feeling in the world!! Enjoy as many cuddles as you possibly can! There is nothing better!

  10. Dana
    May 2, 2016 at 2:53 am (6 years ago)

    My son is one years old and up until he was born I planned every single aspect of my life. I was always so organized and always had a plan. So many people are going to tell you different things and give you so much advice. Some wanted advice and some unwanted. Nothing will go as planned! Just take a deep breath and relax. No need to get stressed when you have a little babe inside of you. They sense your stress and it is unhealthy. Listen to your doctor and your body. Your body tells you exactly what you and baby need;) I’ve never heard of music while giving birth ( the doctors and nurses engage you in so much conversation and so will your husband) but I did play classical music in my room once our son was born. Every nurse commented on how calm it was in my room and how our son responded to that calmness. So if there’s any advice to give you it will be that. You’re going to be a great mother! Good luck xoxo

  11. Lizette
    May 2, 2016 at 3:14 am (6 years ago)

    I agree with everyone so far there are a lot of opinions out there. You do what you MO and your doctor agree is good for you and your baby. As for all the stuff just start with the basics. Rest and relax as much as possble. You will be a great Mom.. Enjoy every moment it goes so quickly. You will be holding him/her before you know it!

  12. Valerie
    May 2, 2016 at 7:13 pm (6 years ago)

    Definitely do a push list — best ever. I had Harrison to the soundtrack of “Blue Hawaii.” After he was born, I played it during bath time when he came home from the hospital and have wonderful memories associated with the music. Definitely get a nightie of some sort and a robe that you’ll feel good about yourself in after the delivery. I also was very happy that I got a blowout and mani/pedi before the delivery and did my makeup the morning of. Don’t stress too much about being prepared. Just read up when you can, and register for everything you think you’ll need. Love the idea of a pre-baby photo shoot! You both will be wonderful parents. XXXX

  13. Abigail Brown
    May 3, 2016 at 3:41 pm (6 years ago)

    I agree with all the moms here! Just relax as much as you can now, and that instinct will kick in and you’ll know just what to do! Be well!

  14. Rebecca
    May 6, 2016 at 10:42 am (6 years ago)

    Congrats and good luck to you…..probably will not even be paying attention to the music. You will be paying attention to the contractions hoe strong and far apart they are and when the pain will stop. I have 2 boys went all natural. We are strong you can do this and the end your beautiful child will be born. I am 4 months pregnant and look foward to see what choice of clothing you wear daily. You have been so fashionable. Where do you shop for your maternity clothes for my wordrobe consists of leggings and a sweater vest lol help a girl out! Thanks amd good luck

  15. Gladia
    May 10, 2016 at 6:39 pm (6 years ago)

    Elisa, stop obsessing! It’s all natural. You will be fine. Stop with the books and diets, it’s all nonsense! You look beautiful.

  16. Gladia
    May 11, 2016 at 4:51 pm (6 years ago)

    That is uncalled for!!!! That is her husband!

  17. June Beuttenmuller
    June 22, 2016 at 1:34 pm (6 years ago)

    My pediatrician gave me the very best advice ever. He said listen to what everyone has to say, but there is no one who will know your baby like you do. Not your mother, not your best friends and not even your pediatrician. So you do what you feel strongly about and listen to the special language you and your baby will have, And my advice is to treasure every moment because before you know it, they’ve grown up and left the coop. Give him (her) roots to grow and wings to fly.

  18. LeeLee
    July 11, 2016 at 11:36 pm (6 years ago)

    Elisa, you look stunning still! Ok, soooooo as a Mom of 3 make sure you slap on some makeup for all the pics you are going to be in…make sure to have comfortable yet stylish clothes and slippers to wear while in the hospital and for the ride home…make sure to get a nursing bra NOW if you plan to nurse because it’s annoying to wear a normal one right after…don’t forget the baby’s very first outfit for the ride home in his new car seat as you will want to save that forever I’m sure…honestly, it really does all come so naturally. And I guarantee that after you give birth and hold your new baby so many things will make so much more sense❤️


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