It’s Been A Year

It’s been a year. Well, technically one year and one month.

weddingmagI am very grateful we had one night to celebrate our anniversary and first year of marriage at Oheka Castle (where we got married, and they were kind enough to hang up our wedding spread in Newsday on their wall).

Please know that I do not mean to sound ungrateful by any means. Just honest. The truth is, even after the honeymoon is over and the bills are paid and the thank yous are mailed… there’s still a lot to be done. And, as I’ve learned, it could all take a good year.

So, it’s been a year (well, over a year)… and that comes with new pressure because, well, it’s been a year.

1. Our Cake.

I waited all year for a taste of our delicious cake that my mother so generously stored for us in her freezer (and prayed not to have a power outage!). She gave it back just before our anniversary, and here it remains. In my “storage” fridge.

cakefridgeBecause it is so special to me (I know it was made with so much love), I had a grand vision of inviting my whole family over, watching our wedding video and eating the cake together to celebrate our anniversary. Yet, we haven’t had time to do that. And, furthermore, the wedding video is still not done…. And, yes, it’s been a year.

{ UPDATE: WE FINALLY ATE THE CAKE —just the two of us after a long day, and it was so delicious and beautiful… I hated cutting into it and wish I could save it forever!}


2. The Wedding Album.

I am so happy that (I thought) I completed our wedding album two days before the one year deadline. Whew! However, I just realized that there are photos I need to add that were not included in my proof pics. And what about all of those other pictures that didn’t make the album? Do they just sit in a box?

3. The Gifts.

I look at the boxes piled in our bedroom every night before I go to sleep and think of all of the wonderful items inside. The truth is, we absolutely love all of our beautiful gifts and can’t wait to have wonderful dinner parties and big family gatherings… someday….


4. The Dress.

dressIs still hanging in my old room at my mother’s house. I go upstairs and visit it every time I am home and think about the fabulous day I had in that dress. I think that if I took it out of the plastic, it might be able to dance on its own! But I know (although my mom has been kind enough not to complain) that it can’t hang there forever. And I have no idea what to do with it. I wanted to put it on again (in hopes that it zips!)- a la that famous Friends episode- and pop open a bottle of champagne (I think we have a few from our engagement that we still haven’t opened) and eat our wedding cake… in my dress. See item #1.


5. The Questions.

First, here’s my question… what makes “the year” the deadline to have all of your you-know-what together? I am the first to admit, I certainly don’t. But people expect you to and ask questions that make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, with us. For example, “It’s been a year, have you thought about starting a family?” Nope, the thought hasn’t crossed my mind, so thank you so much for bringing it to my attention!

All I can say is that we are a work in progress, and although “it’s been a year” (okay, over a year), I pray that we will have many, many years together… and it’s all about the journey, isn’t it?


15 Comments on It’s Been A Year

  1. Diane Terzakos
    September 30, 2015 at 1:57 pm (7 years ago)

    Marriage is a journey! Some twist and some turns. Just sit back and enjoy your ride into forever happiness! May your life together continue to be filled with all the love your hearts can hold!

      • Dean
        September 30, 2015 at 7:30 pm (7 years ago)

        You and your dad look so happy

  2. Laura
    September 30, 2015 at 2:13 pm (7 years ago)

    One day at a time Elisa. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you…..dont sweat the small stuff!! Enjoy your time with your new hubby, that’s what’s important. The other stuff will get done….enjoy your beautiful life every day!!!!

    • Elisa DiStefano
      September 30, 2015 at 2:37 pm (7 years ago)

      That’s the best advice. Thanks Laura! I needed that!

      • Dean
        September 30, 2015 at 7:31 pm (7 years ago)

        Please post some more photos we don’t care about Elisa.

  3. Kristen
    September 30, 2015 at 2:45 pm (7 years ago)

    I thought I was the only one feeling this way! It was 1 year for us 9/28. My dress is still hanging in my closet, the same way I put it there the day after the wedding. We also haven’t done our video or album yet, I am feeling so behind. Thank you for sharing this and letting me know I am not alone! Just have to take it one day at a time, and enjoy making these memories together…Best wishes!

    • Elisa DiStefano
      September 30, 2015 at 2:50 pm (7 years ago)

      Hi Kristen! Thank you for letting me know I’M not alone! I say I am still in wedding recovery mode. Happy Anniversary… and when you figure out what to do with your dress, let me know! I need help!

  4. Susan
    September 30, 2015 at 3:33 pm (7 years ago)

    I’ve been happily married 31 years and my dress went from my parents house,in the bag, to my home only after my parents passed

    • Elisa DiStefano
      September 30, 2015 at 4:01 pm (7 years ago)

      Thanks for sharing that & so sorry about your parents. I feel bad it’s just hanging there!

  5. Craig
    September 30, 2015 at 4:27 pm (7 years ago)

    ,!@;$(!? ‘em. It’s your life and not theirs. Do it your way. You don’t owe explanations.

  6. Steven
    September 30, 2015 at 6:15 pm (7 years ago)

    Elisa my wife and I have been married since 1991 I am happy to say our wedding gift “good” China set is still in my mother in laws attic ! Still wrapped! Almost 25 years! We should use it for our 30th anniversary! Maybe…

  7. Elisa Di Stefano Pitaluga
    September 30, 2015 at 7:54 pm (7 years ago)

    Hi Elisa, the person with the same name as me! I just wanted you to know that my husband and I will be married 30 years in July. We waiting close to six years to have our daughter. At her 1st birthday party, they were asking about the next one, I stopped at one. I too had gifts I never used and some were stored by my aunt and they may still be there! My wedding dress still hangs in my old closet by mom and now hers is right next to mine. We would have used the fabric for her Christening dress but we had it made with other fabulous fabrics. Just always remember, it is your book, you write it and time it as you see fit.

  8. Roseanne
    September 30, 2015 at 9:40 pm (7 years ago)

    I love the idea of hanging your wedding dress in a shadow box and it can be hung as a headboard or in a dressing room or bedroom. I think that’s so romantic after all it should be the most beautiful dress you ever wear. I’m married 30 yrs and I still peek at mine when I go up in the attic. It is so 1980′s I love it

  9. Doreen
    October 14, 2015 at 2:21 am (7 years ago)

    21 years and one month. … Dress still hanging in cedar closet! Time does fly. Go at your pace and enjoy life.


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